Imagine that the captain/sailors resembles the two people in the relationship.
Imagine that the journey ahead resembles the future – where you’re heading in life.
How does the relationship sail?
1) Choosing everyday not to abandon ship. A relationship is hard work. Yes, you may have found your “life-long babe”, but keeping them your “life-long babe” takes effort. You need to be prepared to fuel your relationship with love, encouragement and grace regularly. It’s essential to learn to compromise, understand and most importantly forgive. Without these, your ship will slowly deteriorate and become a wreck before you know it.
I do want to highlight that if the relationship you’re in isn’t working and you aren’t happy – it’s more than okay to abandon ship. It’s okay to walk away from someone who isn’t right for you. Don’t hold onto something just because you’re afraid you won’t find someone else. This is a life journey, don’t waste it on the wrong person.
2) Staying balanced in the storms. Whether you like it or not, storms will come. Most of them won’t be forecasted – you won’t see them coming at all. This is the time that you need to stick together more than ever. You need to be open, honest and 100% present in the relationship. Be alert for where your partner is at. Help them when they stumble and lift them back to their feet when they fall.
Some storms can be prevented. A question you both need to answer is, where is your relationship heading? Are you both planning the same journey? Don’t allow your ship to sail straight into an ice-burg of ignorance.
3) What is weighing you down? I’m going to be brutally honest and say that nothing will weigh a relationship down faster than unnecessary and heavy emotional baggage.
Sometimes people bring along feelings and emotions from the past into their present. The thing to remember about a ship is that it sails forward – it doesn’t reverse.
To be honest, I struggled for a while with trust. I didn’t believe that it was possible for a boy to be faithful to a girl.
Imagine if I had brought along my past experiences into a new relationship? If I had kept that baggage any longer, it would definitely have destroyed what I have with Bradley. The past is the past for a reason, so keep it there. If you’re not ready to move on and leave the past behind you, then don’t start a new relationship.
4) Who is steering your ship? What I love the most about my relationship with Bradley is that we decided from the very start that God is and always will be at the center. He is planning our journey together and He is deciding our route. We know that in deep waters, He will still be with us. I can rest knowing that our ship will make it to its destination.