If you have been following the blog, you’ll know that it was my best friend’s hen party last weekend. You can see photos from the weekend here.
As her maid of honour, it was my duty to plan the celebration. Unfortunately for me, I had never actually attended a hen party before so I kind of had no clue what it should be like… As you can imagine this added some amount of stress to the whole affair. I did however, survive – we had a really great weekend.
For today’s Wedding Wednesday I thought I’d share some of my new found wisdom and experience with you on planning a hen party. Obviously I’m no expert (I only have one hen party to my name), but I do now have a few tips for anyone who was in the same boat as me.
1) First of all, gather your guests. Ask your bride-to-be who she would like at her hen party (make sure you have surnames too! This helps avoid embarrassment of sending the wrong person an invite). Keep that list safe. Find them on Facebook and then create your event. Let them know the date you’re planning the hen party to take place on and give them a few fun details to get them excited.
2) Decide the budget. I’d suggest having an awkward conversation with some of the girls invited to the hen party – ask them what sort of budget they can work with. Once you have decided what people are prepared to pay, you can move on to deciding what you want to do. Bear in mind that hen party’s usually aren’t cheap…
3) Google fun activities to do in whatever location you want the hen party to take place at. Hen Heaven is a great website to explore ideas (although, I don’t recommend signing up to anything on their site because they love to spam your emails daily and call your phone relentlessly).
For the hen party I planned, we went to Go Ape which was soooo much fun. It was affordable and they were easy to find as they’re scattered almost everywhere in the UK. If your bride-to-be isn’t quite as active and prefers the indoors, other great activities include cocktail making, cupcake decorating and flower crown workshops. The possibilities are endless.
4) Get the money and book. This is the hardest part – especially if the girls you’re having to invite have never even met you. In order for you to book everyone’s place in whatever activity you have decided to do, you need their share of money.
Be prepared to send multiple messages of reminders for them to transfer over the decided amount. And worst of all, be prepared to have a deadline. Be nice but also be firm. If they ain’t payin’, they ain’t comin’. Soz.
5) Find your bride-to-be some cute accessories! Amazon is probably the best, most affordable option for this one. I found our bride a cute tiara with a veil attached, a pink sash and some cute sunglasses – all with a big, bold pink “BRIDE TO BE” written loud and proud. The number one rule is that she isn’t allowed to remove accessories at any point throughout the party.
6) Make it fun and play some games. Remember that your bestie will probably only ever celebrate her hen-party once. Make it fun and keep her smiling at all times.
I prepared some games beforehand to guarantee plenty of giggles. I made her fiance prepare some videos answering some questions I asked (how they met, their future children’s names, their most embarrassing moments etc.). I asked her the questions first, and then played the videos his answers and then we all laughed at their differing responses.
I also brought along rolls of toilet paper and split up the group into teams. They had to make the best wedding dress within 4 minutes. The bride had to decide which dress she would be more likely to wear down the aisle.
To make the bride feel special, we all wrote down our favourite/funniest moment with her on our own post-it notes and she had to read them out, guessing who wrote what. This game made us laugh way too much. We heard about all of her darkest and funniest secrets.
The most important thing is that you all have fun and make some great memories together. Don’t take the party too seriously. If something goes wrong, laugh about it and make it the joke of the day.
The people the bride chooses to invite are all there for a reason – they’re all her closest girlfriends. Together you can make the day as perfect as possible for your special bride-to-be.